By this time, you’ve likely read something on the pros or the cons of wearing leggings as (gasp) actual clothing. Whether you agree or disagree, these articles have you thinking (or perhaps laughing, I don’t really know). “Am I a good Christian?” “Am I causing others to stumble?” “Does wearing leggings really make me look immodest?” Well, at least the answer to the third question is purely one of opinion, to which my answer will be to say that the only opinion that should matter is that of your own (and, well, your husband’s if you have one).
I’ll be perfectly honest; I’m more than a little exasperated by the anti-leggings ramblings as of late. I am so glad that others have kissed leggings goodbye. I applaud those of you that have made such a decision and have stuck with it. Doing what you believe is right in your heart is all that anyone can really aspire, hope or dream to do anyway in this life. However, for those of us that need to Usain Bolt through our homes, neighborhood parks and streets multiple times a day, leggings serve a great & high purpose (and let me reassure you, even if you aren’t chasing three adorable little mouseketeers such as myself, leggings still have a great & high purpose).
As I just alluded to, I’m a mom of three gorgeous kiddos under three yrs old. I’m a stay at home mom, a gift that I thank the Lord for each and every day (even when I’ve been struggling through five.days.of.diarrhea here-not joking, but it may be six days now). I love my job. For me, leggings solve some really huge issues. They clothe me, keep me warm, and allow me to “super woman multi task” without worrying about my clothing or how I look when, or if, someone stops by the house. Quite frankly, I often want to hug that gal (because I assume this creator is a female) that designed these amazing pants. These pants not only make me look presentable & nice, but I can play with my kids (because yes, if my daughter wants to dance party, we dance and if my boys need a mommy jungle gym, I’m there), do housework, run errands and sneak in a workout or yoga class *if I’m truly lucky*. Let’s cheers to this accomplishment.
Beyond my solved needs, let’s talk about women. Women ARE beautiful. I have girlfriends and sisters in many shapes and sizes. I’ll be the first to say that they look awesome in leggings. It doesn’t matter if a former CEO says that not all woman were intended to wear his pants, because quite frankly, if a woman feels confident enough about herself to wear any particular item of clothing, she should be complimented for looking her best in that moment. It’s our job to encourage our gal pals that have worked incredibly hard on weight loss or weight gain or weight maintenance or positive self-outlook, and not tear them down or question what they wear by posting your reasons for no longer wearing an item and thus, silently judging their decision.
I realize by writing on this topic I am bringing more attention to the topic of leggings (so ignore this immediate hypocrisy and look beyond at the truth). Let’s stop drawing attention to the fact that some women like to wear leggings and will continue to wear them and others do not like them and will not wear them. As the male correspondent on GMA (where they covered this topic quickly on 1/21/15) pointed out, men have more control than women give them credit. I’ve always believed that when you give someone the chance to reach higher they will. Looking past just leggings, a quick search through most female closets will reveal that most of pants are nearly as fitted *if not more in some cases* than that of leggings (just in my twin skin mommy case they are accompanied by a cute muffin top). Perhaps this argument is, in general, with the fashion industry? A quick history lesson on fashion will assure the legging nay-sayers that just like Colorado weather, wait a minute, and it will change. (but for fun, go check out how revealing the dresses were during the Civil War—and um, corsets, if that doesn’t leave anything to the imagination…). Fashion ebbs and flows. Could some women dress more modestly, sure, but then again who monitors modesty. Kerry’s definition differs from Laura’s, which differs from Jenny’s, which differs yet from Ann’s.
In essence, whether someone wants to wear leggings or not is their choice. There absolutely are two sides to every coin. This does not need to be a political nor religious discussion. Modesty, in general, is subjective. Let’s not turn this into another republican vs democratic, breastmilk vs formula, cloth vs disposable, co sleep vs crib debate. Our larger problem as a female population (and will continue to be until we fix our mistake) is that we do not take the time to build one another up. Where is the edification? We leave comments all too quickly and perfectly placed, which are meant to jar our fellow woman. Why do we take joy in rattling people who could be our biggest supporters? Lift up your fellow girlfriend, pray for her, spread joy and cheer, write her kind words. But let’s drop the judgments on clothing. The gal wearing Tory Burch can have the same relationship with Christ as the “thrifter”. Wearing leggings does not make someone immodest (unless of course they are clearly see through-then help her out and offer her a sweater because she likely has NO CLUE—just like spinach in her teeth…but tell her in a loving and private way, not public and humiliating). Start assuming the best rather than the worst. Watch how you change once you start doing just that. You’ll be happier, less stressed & cynical and you may even find some more free time in your day. Again, on any given day, all we can do is the best we can with the tools we’ve been given. If a gal feels as though leggings are the best way to dress to accomplish the many jobs that she is juggling, then more power to her. In fact, consider coming alongside her and encouraging her—because she’s probably exhausted and ready for a friend.
(and just like that, I think I’ve found my inspiration to blog again)